Sunday, May 9, 2010
The Magic Carrot
We've all heard of the carrot on a stick that has to be held in front of a donkey to get it to go. Sometimes we have to dangle a carrot in front of ourselves, or others in order to get things moving as well. It is a lie that the donkey is about to get that carrot. It is a lie that we are slim, studious, or whatever we are trying to become. But affirmations do work. Constantly writing or saying that you are the embodiment of the positive characteristic you are trying to become does bring about change. Partly because we don't like to lie and the tension needs to be resolved. So we change in order to be more comfortable. Another carrot that is sometimes useful is to praise yourself or others, gently, for succeeding when the success first shows. It is not exactly a lie but it helps to make the way smoother towards that goal. It is quite alright to write down, and commend yourself for, every little piece of success you have. Don't wait to say "I finished the report." Say "I got a good start on the report and will be able to continue in a productive way." Say "I recognized the problems involved with the project and made a workable plan for dealing with them." Grab onto that spark of magic that will help you lead yourself forward. You deserve success and the spark of magic that is the magic carrot will help you. May the spark be with you.